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Why I’m Quitting Online Dating. Again.
Eight reasons online dating is utterly bogus.
If you’re anything like me… that is, single (alas), working full-time, caring for a family, maybe a parent or two, and desperately cramming in a little “me” time… you have precious little leftover for dating. You have even less for tripping along in life hoping for chance encounters.
That’s because possibilities for chance encounters are few and far between.
Drifting around an exhibit at the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art? Happens once every three years, realistically.
In a life packed with work, friends, neighbors, home life, care-taking, reading, writing, hiking, and hobbies, possibilities for chance encounters are exceedingly rare.
If you happen to have a bad grocery store, that sets you back even further. Chances of meeting an “appropriate” match at my local market are nil.
With all that said, of course online dating attracts me. It’s compelling. It often hits me when I’m making dinner. Sometimes, when I have a few precious minutes between sautéing the onions and adding the kale, listening to the Jazz Oasis on KCSM, perfectly happy, I sigh and think, wouldn’t it be lovely to have a mate to cook with, to be sharing all this with a lover.
