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Why aren’t you dating?
It’s complicated. And tango isn’t helping.
It was hard enough before, what with age (I’m 54), the well-known pitfalls and disappointments of online dating, the general breakdown of society, pervasive stress, the cost of living, general confusion, what have you.
But there’s an added complication, and it’s a big deal.
You see, I’m an Argentine tango acolyte.
Some men in the dating scene know what this is about. When I was still playing the field, one said to me, “Oh, you’re one of those.” He sounded none too thrilled.
Yes, I am. And I’ve discovered that tango and dating don’t mix terribly well.
You see, tango messes with my dating, and dating messes with my tango.
And besides, the tangasm is real.
What’s that you say?
You heard me right.
Those of us in the tango community know what this is, at least theoretically. A tangasm has been defined as “a moment of total connection coupled with full-body pleasure” characterized by “bodies swirling with each other, breathing together, a union with the moment, your partner, the music, the room.”
If it sounds pretty heady, that’s because it is.
