This killed me, and tears are coursing down my cheeks. I’m in the same situation with my 22-year-old daughter who excised me three years ago. I thought we were buds too. We seemed to be until she left for college. I hear and understand only too well your pain. I also have physical symptoms; gut-wrenching is the right term, and the rest of them too. I’m devastated, as you are. And utterly confused. The study you mention is interesting. I also wonder what is going on in America? I wonder if some of this is cultural. My Persian friend says this simply does not happen in Iranian families.