Learn How to Seduce, and to Succumb

Don’t miss out on two of life’s chief joys

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The MeToo Movement is important for obvious reasons. Bad actors who have gotten away with egregious predatory behavior need to be brought to heel, by the law or public pressure or whatever means are necessary.

But, I hope being woke to the power imbalances that have existed does not rob young people of the art of flirtation, courtship, seduction, and surrender. The idea that people should obtain formal verbal consent before they cross a certain line in the seduction process depresses me.

Of course, if there is any ambiguity at all, the question shouldn’t even be asked. But, if there IS somehow ambiguity, then by all means, ask.

For sensitive people in tune with one another, it should be clear what is taking place. If one or both parties are inebriated, high, or otherwise impaired, then nothing is clear. Consent should be neither requested nor granted. Two people not in their right minds aren’t connecting properly anyway. Even if “consent” is “granted,” of course, it means nothing, since the persons in question were impaired.

Relatively well-functioning people with their wits about them, however, should, in my opinion, be free to flirt, seduce, and allow themselves to be seduced.