Casting about for that elusive ideal

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The truth. The truth. The truth is…, I keep hearing in my mind. The truth is… The truth is, I’m pissed. And by pissed I mean the North American meaning of the word. I’m not drunk (though I may be slightly tipsy from the 10% alcohol sparking wine I opened…

to not say or do anything that will upset my daughter or her girlfriend this weekend

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I’m in the doghouse. That much is clear. But, my daughter opened the door a crack today. I have another chance. I can creep out with my tail between my legs and try again.

When my daughter contacted me today, I was half-sure she was calling to cancel our visit…

It’s got to be. It’s the only word that works.

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I just mmm’d my way through my dinner. I mean, I could not stop saying, mmm. Mmm. Mmm. With every bite, I said, “Mmm.” It felt good. It felt true. I could not help myself. The mmm just emerged, it just came, unbidden.

It added to my enjoyment. …

Or, when to jump ship

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I am driving myself crazy.

On the one hand, I’m this person: A crazy, crazed, restless, excited romantic hell-bent on renting my house and moving to Italy. Where? Who knows? Rome, or somewhere in Abruzzo. These things are fairly arbitrary. Rome because that’s where Jhumpa Lahiri moved, learned Italian, and…

In honor of Nina Simone

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The cat is asking if she can get in my lap, and she most decidedly cannot.

She is getting old, and her meow is almost gone.

I just found myself meowing back at her in a mirror of her own meow-less meow. She liked that. She began purring immediately. And…

Turn anxiety into copy

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My wolf is anxiety, and my prescription is to write

My daughter gave me an edict this evening.

Well, let’s back up. The big news, first, is that she called. She called me.

I’ve gotten used to being grateful for crumbs, and it’s okay. I’m not being facetious. My daughter…

Yeah, I was a Karen today. Trust me, it can happen to the best of us.

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I always counsel my kids to be patient with people who are acting badly. You don’t know what has happened to them, what news they may have received just moments before. You don’t know if they’re vulnerable, or altered by substances.

I just got home from the grocery store down…

Cultivate compassion for the mentally ill

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We have a serious problem. Someone we love very much, a man who happens to be the father of my fantastic children, is mentally ill. He is very ill, in fact, and there is almost nothing we can do to help him. As far as we can tell, there are…

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